Teen Bathroom Selfies

Teen Bathroom Selfies

Several weeks ago, in response to the anti trans “bathroom bills” popping up across the country, I posted some selfies that I took in women’s bathrooms. This is the first image I posted, that went viral. The overwhelming majority of people who responded to these photos were encouraging and supportive. What I never anticipated, however, were the negative responses from some trans people, regarding “passing.” This is a topic that comes up often in conversations and it’s almost always a touchy subject. Personally, I don’t like the term at all. When we talk about someone passing as male, or passing as female — we’re suggesting that they are being seen as someone they are not. I don’t pass as a man, I am a man. But for the sake of this piece, and understanding the issues surrounding how society perceives trans people, I will use this language. The comments I’ve received, that bothered me the most, were the ones suggesting that my taking these selfies and sharing them was “unfair to the trans community”, and that I was “promoting the idea that all trans people should look a certain way to access the bathroom of their choosing.” And the one that was especially troublesome, “a cis ideal shouldn’t be the standard for what counts as a gender.” Let me say, above all else, that I do understand that some trans people have an easier time blending into society as their true gender. I also acknowledge that there is a privilege attached to not having your trans status visible to others. But like other privileges attached to who we are in this world — it’s how we use that privilege that is important. I started using men’s restrooms before I even transitioned and have had no issues. I could have continued to do so without incident. Instead, I chose to out myself publicly. Now, for the first time in nearly 20 years, I have to worry when I go to the men’s room that someone will recognize me and know I am trans. I knowingly and happily made that choice for all my trans brothers and sisters who have to worry every time they use a public restroom. The conservatives responsible for these “bathroom bills” just have one picture in their head. They are primarily targeting trans women. I’m sure many of them never even considered a bearded trans man walking into the women’s room. I wanted to change their paradigm. I wanted to challenge their assumptions that you can always tell when someone is trans. We have a significant problem brewing, when transgender people who do have passing privilege, are made to feel as though their voice can’t have an impact. I acknowledge that I have passing privilege, but that doesn’t take away my struggles growing up and navigating the world as a trans person. It certainly doesn’t diminish my trans voice in these conversations. So rather than remain quiet and enjoy my privilege — I chose to out myself to the world. While the negative comments do sting, I don’t regret what I did. The positive comments far outweigh the negative. However, it’s the messages from the youngest of our community, the people new to transition, that have been empowered to bravely move forward in their journey, that mean the most to me. How far will this downward spiral, of who’s the most oppressed and most marginalized in the trans community go? Why can’t we, as a community, accept that each trans person has their own unique experience that comes with its own challenges? This should not be a competition as to which of us society treats the worst. What are we saying to our detractors, and to the powers that be, when we point fingers at and judge one another? How many trans voices will be silenced for fear of being accused of being an unfair representation? 20 years ago, you’d be hard pressed to find any positive representation of trans people in the media. Now, we have gained momentum and are becoming more visible. We’re in an exciting time right now as a community, and people are paying attention. Sure, there’s bound to be push back, which is why we see things like these bathroom bills popping up. But we must remain visible and keep the conversation going in a positive direction. We must not give up the fight or cause any of our own to become disheartened. We must keep gaining momentum. It benefits all of us, when build each other up and empower all trans voices.
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Teen Bathroom Selfies

Bathroom selfies are taking on a whole new meaning lately. With anti-trans bills popping up across the country, many focused on which bathroom transgender people use, the selfies that were once just silly snaps are now becoming a little more political.
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Teen Bathroom Selfies

Another year, another Met Gala come and gone, but of course, it has not left us without a whole host of #looks, couples and of course, amazing memories. Surely if you're someone who actually attended the event, there's a lot you'd want to store for keepsakes (the dresses, for starters), and for Kendall Jenner that's always been the bathroom selfies she takes.
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Teen Bathroom Selfies

Several weeks ago, in response to the anti trans “bathroom bills” popping up across the country, I posted some selfies that I took in women’s bathrooms. This is the first image I posted, that went viral.
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Teen Bathroom Selfies

The comments I’ve received, that bothered me the most, were the ones suggesting that my taking these selfies and sharing them was “unfair to the trans community”, and that I was “promoting the idea that all trans people should look a certain way to access the bathroom of their choosing.” And the one that was especially troublesome, “a cis ideal shouldn’t be the standard for what counts as a gender.” Let me say, above all else, that I do understand that some trans people have an easier time blending into society as their true gender. I also acknowledge that there is a privilege attached to not having your trans status visible to others. But like other privileges attached to who we are in this world — it’s how we use that privilege that is important.
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Teen Bathroom Selfies

After their bathroom encounter, Mahri said she and her pals hung out with the older woman and her husband a while, chatting about life. They then parted ways – before the teen even learned the woman’s name.
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Teen Bathroom Selfies

“HB 2 (the bathroom bill) is legislative bullying, plain and simple,” Sarah McBride told Teen Vogue. “They are doing it with demonstrably false claims that stoke unfounded fears around protecting transgender people in bathrooms. HB 2 is the worst kind of bigotry and is hurting real people.”
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Teen Bathroom Selfies

When Mason Perkins snapped a photo of himself in a Target bathroom, it wasn’t because his eyebrows were on point that day. Target recently declared that all stores will allow transgender people to use the bathroom that fits their gender identity. While it sounds like a no-brainer, the move was a reaction to a North Carolina bill that mandates transgender people use the bathroom that matches the sex they were assigned at birth.
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Previous Next Two students at Lakewood High have been arrested and charged with possessing a weapon on campus after police were alerted of a Snapchat photo showing one of the students posing with a gun in the school bathroom. WFTS Two students at Lakewood High have been arrested and charged with possessing a weapon on campus after police were alerted of a Snapchat photo showing one of the students posing with a gun in the school bathroom. Officials say a third student has been WFTS Copyright 2016 Scripps Media, Inc. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.
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Two students at Lakewood High have been arrested and charged with possessing a weapon on campus after police were alerted of a Snapchat photo showing one of the students posing with a gun in the school bathroom. WFTS Two students at Lakewood High have been arrested and charged with possessing a weapon on campus after police were alerted of a Snapchat photo showing one of the students posing with a gun in the school bathroom. Officials say a third student has been WFTS Copyright 2016 Scripps Media, Inc. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.